That Feeling called "LOVE"

Define LOVE??
"Love is nothing but an extension of Lust" was an honest answer by me to a question posted to me by a friend,he naturally disagreed and a heated debate ensued with neither of us budging from our respective point of views.For Him Love was something pure,something unparalleled,but I opined Love is the self-delusion we manufacture to justify the trouble we take to have sex and no more,but until the inevitable happens to you,Yes I use the word inevitable because you lose control over your emotions and all your plans goes into the drains.


Love does not come knocking on the doors of your heart,it just seeps through somehow rudely,from GOD knows where.The standard practice of listening to romantic songs becomes a paranoid reality and you feel How does the lyricist came to know about your feelings.Has he also been through the same flow of emotions.How come he is speaking your mind or rather Heart.

Then when you have bathed yourself completely in the feeling,you decide to take the hardest step in your life after much thought and consideration,contemplating for days and nights you gear up for the battle to take on the War.

Lets consider few scenarios(There are more,but lets stick to few)

Case 1(Quick Rejection)
Boy walks up to the girl
Boy: "Baby You Rock my World"
Girl: What!! Are you out of your mind.You disgust me.
Story over.The boy went to taste some flesh but ends up tasting Ash.


Case 2(Most Common)
The boy and girl have known each other for quite sometime now and when the boys Heart is filled up to the brim he decides to face the music and takes the first step towards The path that leads to His love.He will try to make several attempts to do so face to face but in vain,then he resorts to technology,and confesses about his love via Email or SMS.
The girl will make him wait,wait and wait.In the meantime the boy will become a nervous wreck susceptible to even the slightest of noise or touch.Then Again he has to gather enough courage to ask the girl and the reply will be the most cliched one probably heard over more than thousand of times"I never thought of you like this.We will always remain friends and blah,blah,and some more blah.
The Boy would be forced to think,in retrospect,why did he even asked in the first place,left to nurse a bruised Heart.

Case 3(On the hook)
The boy will ask the girl and the girl will not take a decision,she will keep him on the hook for sometimes months at a stretch,testing the waters in their relationship,judging and misjudging every little step of the boy.

CASE 4(The silent LOVER)
The boy in this case will never confess his feelings ever except to few of his trusted aides,keeping his feelings to himself and never gathers enough courage to confess.The feeling will keep eating him from inside like White ants,and the slow poison will ultimately make him averse to the whole idea of love.

(Lets get into the aftermath of being in a relationship or not being in one,they are different stories altogether)

Love is not a chimera,it is not a process that can be thought of,it will happen when you cannot even fathom.You cannot say Now that I am free and have nothing to do lets fall in love all I need is a girl to fall in love with.It does not work that way because even if it does you are not in love but in,Love with the idea of being in love,You want to get a feel of being in a relationship.

Obviously you cannot force the one you love to love you back,that will be the most outrageous thing to even think about ,and you will only dilute your love for her at least in her eyes or rather Heart.If you can find someone who loves you back with the same intensity as yours or even a notch lower,consider it as a blessing as if you have set the Thames on fire(or Ganga in the Indian context)

P.S:YEh ishq nai aasan bas itna samajh lijiye,EK aag ka dariya hain aur doob ke jaana hain.